touch_paranoia_column before really_destroy!-ing a record in rails 4.1.x.…

touch_paranoia_column before really_destroy!-ing a record in rails 4.1.x. reloading already really_destroy!-ed associations is needed, otherwise super.destroy! will try to destroy these asociations (because they still exist on the activerecord object, but are already removed from the database)

Fixes #143

lib/paranoia.rb

@@ -153,8 +153,10 @@ class ActiveRecord::Base
           # Paranoid models will have this method, non-paranoid models will not
           associated_records = associated_records.with_deleted if associated_records.respond_to?(:with_deleted)
           associated_records.each(&:really_destroy!)
+          self.send(name).reload
         end
       end
+      touch_paranoia_column if ActiveRecord::VERSION::STRING >= "4.1"
       destroy!
     end